I tend to live my life in this way but there is one exception. Having read this I have been educated as to why that person drives me incredibly bananas. No more. I will now expect even less from them than anyone else. Thanks for defining the cure I've been desperate for. Good read. Thank you, Tom.
A couple of thoughts: since you were driving up to Boston, you were not really going to get lobster after all, rather, you were craving some lobstaaah, and whether it was a freeway, or a highway, or a parking lot, up in Maaaaasachusetts it had to be a paaahking lot. Of course, you had to bring back fond memories of Old Blue Eyes with the remark that if you can drive in New York, you can drive anywhere. I guess so. If I can make it there, I’ll make it anywhere… allegedly anyway. I had you pegged for a Notre Damer, through and through, but the Brooklyn Inya is just too powahhhful! 😃
I struggle with this a bit because I absolutely get what you're saying by building a bit of failure buffer into your relationships - but I also believe that calling those relationships out on those behaviours with firm accountability actually builds stronger bonds. I was recently doing a self-review at work, and I put down: I LOVE TO PROCRASTINATE, PLEASE BUG ME ABOUT DEADLINES. I think it's better when we can ask for that accountability, but I don't always think it's unwelcome if it isn't, it's just awkward and you have to navigate it, especially with friendships.
Speaking of navigation, I also am the guy on the freeway that is like, "Look, buddy, if you want to keep weaving like a madman, be my guest; I'll be over here in lane 3", but while part of me would want to roll my eyes when the dude spins out on the shoulder, I would also probably pull over to make sure he's ok. I would like to think we are all complex enough to have room for both wolves inside us, because surely, my time for stupidity will come, and I hope someone will call me an idiot and extend me a hand to help me up.
I agree with the sentiment, but also being optimistic regarding the results of your own actions is a part of what drives more action - leading to better results.
So some compromise, allowing for a bit of disappointment, might end up worthwhile.
I tend to live my life in this way but there is one exception. Having read this I have been educated as to why that person drives me incredibly bananas. No more. I will now expect even less from them than anyone else. Thanks for defining the cure I've been desperate for. Good read. Thank you, Tom.
Wow, Tom, you never failed to impress!😃
A couple of thoughts: since you were driving up to Boston, you were not really going to get lobster after all, rather, you were craving some lobstaaah, and whether it was a freeway, or a highway, or a parking lot, up in Maaaaasachusetts it had to be a paaahking lot. Of course, you had to bring back fond memories of Old Blue Eyes with the remark that if you can drive in New York, you can drive anywhere. I guess so. If I can make it there, I’ll make it anywhere… allegedly anyway. I had you pegged for a Notre Damer, through and through, but the Brooklyn Inya is just too powahhhful! 😃
I struggle with this a bit because I absolutely get what you're saying by building a bit of failure buffer into your relationships - but I also believe that calling those relationships out on those behaviours with firm accountability actually builds stronger bonds. I was recently doing a self-review at work, and I put down: I LOVE TO PROCRASTINATE, PLEASE BUG ME ABOUT DEADLINES. I think it's better when we can ask for that accountability, but I don't always think it's unwelcome if it isn't, it's just awkward and you have to navigate it, especially with friendships.
Speaking of navigation, I also am the guy on the freeway that is like, "Look, buddy, if you want to keep weaving like a madman, be my guest; I'll be over here in lane 3", but while part of me would want to roll my eyes when the dude spins out on the shoulder, I would also probably pull over to make sure he's ok. I would like to think we are all complex enough to have room for both wolves inside us, because surely, my time for stupidity will come, and I hope someone will call me an idiot and extend me a hand to help me up.
I’m in love!! Great job 👏- laughing about the truth. Thx. Doc.
Thank you!
I agree with the sentiment, but also being optimistic regarding the results of your own actions is a part of what drives more action - leading to better results.
So some compromise, allowing for a bit of disappointment, might end up worthwhile.
I wonder if acting on this could reverse the trend. What if you see you are being the yellow one and change course?